The Dhaka Times Desk When you think positively, your mind will be cheerful. Negative thoughts make your mind anxious and likewise make you depressed. You will not be successful in any work. Negative thinking brings defeat before defeat. So we're going to tell you 10 negative thoughts people have about themselves that you can avoid.
'All or nothing' thinking: Having this kind of extreme thinking will tell you either you will get it or you won't. As a result, you will have more confidence. Remember that overconfidence can be your downfall. Nothing is perfect in life. Be prepared that there are many things in between that are not available.
To oversimplify: When something bad happens you assume it will happen again! Like when you ask someone for time, but they don't give you time, you mentally assume that the next person won't give you time either! As a result of this kind of thinking, you will lose confidence completely, which will plunge you into depression.
Mental filter: A mental filter refers to a person's mechanism to cover up or avoid a depressive state. In the mental filter, a person attempts to mentally relax by juxtaposing a depressing and negative event with another positive event. People want to avoid their mistakes or disappointments and cover them up with success. So struggle to conquer, not push away disappointments, failures through mental filtering.
Neglecting the positive: In this type of thinking, you tend to think negatively about any positive thing without your knowledge. Thinking like this can make you lose your confidence. Negative thoughts bypassing positive thoughts can have a serious impact on your work performance. You may not succeed in what you used to be successful at.
Prejudice: In this case, you come to a decision about what will happen in the first part by yourself, much like a fortune teller. For example, if your friend does not call you back, then you first assume that your friend dislikes you or if your business has a temporary problem, you assume that your business will be lost. This type of thinking is very harmful for you.
Hyper-reactivity: It is a matter where you think at a level that is completely unnecessary i.e. overreact to the event. Magnify common problems. In medical terms Schizophrenia syndrome It is said A schizophrenic patient mentally lives in a different world that bears no resemblance to reality.
Irrational emotions: Sometimes you show irrational emotions. Irrational emotions have no place in real life. When you make decisions based on irrational emotions, it will frustrate you. So to be successful you must avoid showing irrational emotions.
Thoughts of having to do or must: When you think about something you have to do or must do, and then you can't do it at the end of the day, you will be depressed. Do you begin to wonder how other people are doing the work? This will make you depressed.
Feeling guilty You invested in a business or bought shares and later found out that you made a huge loss. In this case you start feeling defeated, failed or unlucky. Such negative thoughts about yourself can make you even more depressed. No matter how you think of yourself, it doesn't matter to people, it's your loss. You will always try to make things happen at the right time for you, so wait and stick to it.
Taking everything personally: It is negative to have such thoughts in you where you start thinking about yourself whether you have faults or virtues or not. Such a problem is abbreviated as “the mother of guilt” is said. Taking everything personally is not always well received by many people and may even misunderstand you. Someone said something that you unknowingly assumed was said to you. In case of such a problem, there is a possibility of ruining the relationship between you and the people around you.
Source: mans xp dot com
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