The Dhaka Times Desk The human mind is unfathomable. There are often many illusions that seem real. Actually a lot of it is wrong. Your mind is lying to you. By believing these lies about yourself, you are diminishing your power.
You are living daily life with many weaknesses, many bad feelings. stop once Observe yourself. Is your perception of yourself really correct? Here are 10 misconceptions to help you out. Know and think. Which of these is holding you back?
"I am my feelings, I am my thoughts"
When you are surrounded by a strong emotion it can feel like your own being. Think, I am like this. But actually it is not right. If feelings, thoughts are your being, then as soon as they are gone, your existence is supposed to disappear. Surely not?
Feelings and thoughts are much like the weather. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. They do not belong to you.
"Can't risk it"
Naturally, people want security. You lose a lot by being safe. If something is risky, it should not be done, it is not right. We live in a changing world. No matter how much you want to avoid risk, it's not guaranteed. You have to acquire security. Or risk it. Make decisions that will put you on top.
“Real happiness is material possessions”
You may think you have nothing. So you can't be happy. But know that you cannot be happy because of thinking like this. Can happiness be bought? If so, how much does it cost?
The ingredients of happiness are always free. Love, laughter, kindness, gratitude, compassion are all ingredients of happiness. These require not material wealth, but only mind.
"I'm smaller than everyone else"
You may think of yourself as fat, messy, fat, or stupid. Always compare yourself with others. Think, how far they are ahead of you.
Think about it, you are the only one in this world. There is no one else like you. Good and bad people. You may have something that no one else in the world has. So don't compare yourself with others. This will set you back a lot. Remember, you are the king of your kingdom.
"It's not my fault, I'm a victim of bad luck"
Stop always thinking of yourself as a victim of bad luck. Is someone else really responsible for your inner feelings? Learn to understand your faults. Confessing to yourself will increase your credibility. Be convinced to solve misunderstandings. Never a weakness, it will boost your morale.
"I don't need no friends"
Maybe you are unhappy with your friend's actions. Maybe you think that you can live without friends, having friends is a waste of time. Actually it is not correct. Only a good friend can help you when you feel lonely, stressed, drowned in sorrow and pain. Even expressing joy requires friends. People will think you are crazy if you express happiness alone.
Feelings have to be expressed. Maybe to a friend, maybe to a lover. Maybe no one could help. But remember, you're doing yourself a big favor by expressing your feelings to someone.
"I couldn't before, how can I do it in the future?"
Your past may have witnessed many sorrows, hardships and failures. Therefore, the past should not be left behind. Only humans make mistakes. Then learn from mistakes. Surely you understand the mistakes you made? Try to overcome them. You made a mistake, learned from it. But you are not wrong. right?
"I'm so lonely"
When you feel lonely, sad or hurt, think you are alone. You have no one in this world. Know that everyone in the world goes through these feelings at one time or another. So it is true that no one in the world has anyone? It's a normal feeling, don't worry.
“I have to excel”
Such cravings will cause you many feelings including stress, depression, feeling exploited, guilt. You just keep a balance between good and bad. Your mind is great, you are great. It doesn't matter if anyone understands it or not.
“I have to worry about everything”
Worry eats all happiness. Any untoward incident makes you anxious. In this situation, you will not be able to do Samadha, rather unpleasant events will happen. So don't worry and say to yourself, "What if?". You will see, a different world has opened up for you.
All these deceptions in your mind are holding you back. feel yourself Stop fooling yourself. Only then can you enjoy this life.
Thank you: MindBodyGreen
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