The Dhaka Times Desk Sometimes it seems like the world would stop spinning if love didn't exist. Love is pure, love is sweet, love is painful or love is broken. Sometimes love is a matter of hundred pursuits and sometimes it is a mourning of loss. We understand the poetics of the heart, poets try to reveal its secrets in their precious poems. After all, true love is eternal. Why our romance and poetics towards this wonderful object?
1. Monogamy also exists in the animal world
Humans think they are the only animals on earth who are bona fide species and have monogamous relationships. But humans are not the only animals, in the animal world animals like wolves, swans, owls, black vultures, ganchils also stay with a partner throughout their life.
2. You can decide whether you want someone or not in 4 minutes
You can make a good impression on someone in just four minutes. Believe it or not this can be done much better with your body language and voice than you must say.
3. As the two couples stare intently at each other, their hearts beat faster
A remarkable study found that romantically engaged couples' heart rates increased for three minutes when they gazed into each other's gaze.
4. Falling in love has neurological effects similar to cocaine
Falling in love is a lot like taking cocaine, both involve similar changes in the brain, producing auditory hallucinations. Research has shown that when falling in love, 12 parts of the brain simultaneously produce auditory sensation chemicals.
5. Hugs act like natural pain relievers
Oxytocin is a hormone produced during the embrace of a loving couple. This hormone is produced in the brain, ovaries and testicles when the process of bonding between lovers begins. Studies have shown that oxytocin helps reduce headaches.
6. Looking at pictures of loved ones relieves pain
It is a proven fact that looking at pictures of loved ones creates feelings of love. Which helps to remove the pain or pain accumulated inside. Experiments have shown that pictures of loved ones are more effective in relieving pain by diverting the mind from pain through wordplay.
7. Couples of the same stage are more likely to last
Many social and psychological studies have shown that people have a structural style when it comes to establishing relationships. This is known as the matching hypothesis, which states that people like each other based on attractiveness as well as their social status.
8. Couples with similar characteristics are less likely to last
Studies have shown that couples with opposite traits last longer. It seems that couples always try to create similar characteristics in themselves. As a result, they try to get to know each other.
9. The pain of heartbreak is not only figurative
Studies have shown that certain events such as separation, divorce, loss of a loved one, physical separation from a loved one, heartbreak due to betrayal by a loved one are accompanied by physical pain. This is called “Broken Heart Syndrome” in medical terms. In deep emotional distress, there is a significant release of chemicals from the brain that cause physical pain.
10. Amorous couples are remnants of committed love
At the beginning of the couple's love, they are in a romanticism, during which they feel obedience, dependence, fluttering like butterflies. This stage is called in psychology the beginning of committed love which eventually turns into a romantic couple.
11. People with OCD have similar chemical characteristics to those who fall in love
Basic love is like taking a serotonin drug, which creates a happy and positive feeling in the mind. In the language of psychology, its name is mental disorder caused by excessive intoxication. This causes the person to behave differently out of their own character.
12. Love and sex influence creativity and contribute to strong thinking
Love influences creative abstract thinking. This results in long-term relationships, devotion to loved ones, commitment and above all intimacy. It's good to remember that sex helps to focus on intense thoughts and goals in the moment.
13. Closeness, care and intimacy increase the depth of love
The love triangle theory explains the different types of love instruments. Three types of love are created through two different materials, romantic love = passion + intimacy
Companionate Love = Intimacy + Commitment
Love without purpose = passion + commitment
It is true that the strongest and truest love will contain all the elements.
14. Attractive looks play a better role in lasting relationships than attractive bodies
Looking at advertisements, it seems that body shape attracts someone instantly but in reality the opposite is true if it is a long-term relationship.
15. Holding a loved one's hand relieves pain and stress
Research has shown that holding a loved one's hand in the midst of stress is true for the depth of strong bonds in long-term relationships.
17. The butterflies in the mind are real and they actually produce adrenaline
One cannot avoid the butterflies in one's mind when one falls in love. Those butterflies fly inside the mind, dance-sing, play. Doctors say it is because of adrenaline hormone.
18. A winkless eye gaze can make you attractive to others
In 1870, Darwin showed that humans show attention to something by dilating the eyelids. One of the conditions of approach in love is to show attention to someone.
Love can be created in exchange of sight, poets say that eyes are the mirror of the heart. So the eyes speak the mind. In fact, it is true that looking at each other with a fixed gaze, it vibrates in the mind and thus love is created. Doctors say that phenylethamine is produced in the body during this time. Love is really a unique thing 75 years of research by Harvard researchers has shown love, love is really a different thing and feeling.
Reference: Borpanda
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